Did I say anything wrong?

Lets be honest here, this is not the issue let me ure you of that. I have a 13 year old son, and i have had conversations like this. The point you raise on here is the tip of the iceberg for example, my son may have; been asked 4 times to get his washing off the floor and still not done it properly, dawdled on his way to school and was late for no reason, left his shoes bag and coat in the middle of the hall after school. THEN he will isolate a single point which on its own may seem insignificant, but trust me kids can be such a pain and usually is a build up.